I never thought that when I fell in love with Game of Thrones there would ever be anything that I could write about it in connection to my weddings. However, luckily for me, as any GOT fan knows, as well as the vast amounts of pillaging, debauchery, incest, backstabbing and treachery, we have also been treated to lots of weddings!

Now don’t get me wrong. I am well aware that Kings Landing does not exist in some alternate universe (as much as I may secretly want it to) and I’m also very aware that Jon Snow lives solely amongst the pages of a book, however there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking the brilliance of fiction and weaving a little of it into real life.

Unique vows

In their very intimate wedding ceremony, Rob Stark, Talisa and their celebrant took part in the following vows, which included a short hand-fasting. The following words were said;

Celebrant: In the sight of the Seven, I hereby seal these two souls, binding them as one for eternity. Look upon one another and say the words.

Rob and Talisa in unison: Father. Smith. Warrior. Mother. Maiden. Crone. Stranger. I am his/hers, and s/he is mine, from this day, until the end of my days.

So what is it I love about these vows?

Firstly, I love that their hands are tied together whilst their vows are said. I think that can be a really nice element to vow making.

Secondly, although their words probably mean very little to any of us, I love the fact that they have said words, which mean something to them. They were calling for a blessing from their gods. (I’ve added this bit since publishing the original post, to reflect some of the comments below. Thanks guys.)

Thirdly, I love the unison quality of these vows. This is a really original technique to have a couple say the same vows at the same time and there is something about the two of you saying your vows as one, which is very symbolic.

As actors are professionals and have a few chances to get their lines right and you don’t, I would recommend having vows like this typed up or written out on to a small piece of card that you can hold if your hands aren’t tied, or you can read from the card which is placed on the ceremonial table. If the vows are short enough that you could remember them, then that would be really effective and all the more powerful.

So to bring these medieval vows into the real world, this would be my twist on them for a real-life, modern ceremony.

Celebrant: In the presence of your family and friends, I now bind your hands together, to symbolize your new union of love, trust and friendship. (Binds hands) Now, please look at one another and pledge your vows to seal your union.

David and Victoria: Mother. Lover. Father. Friend. Protector. Healer. I am yours, you are mine, from this day until the end of our days.


David and Victoria: You. Me. We. Us. Friend. Guide. Lover. I am yours, you are mine, from this day until the end of our days.

Or whatever words you feel describe and fit you best!

The Game of Thrones vows have seven aspects, which represent a god with 7 elements, hence why there are seven descriptive words. Back in the real world, you can have as many words as you want or go with an amount which represents a significant number in your life. Maybe you want four words because it’s your joint lucky number or nine because that’s the day of your anniversary. And even if this wording and style is not quite to your liking, maybe the idea of saying your vows in unison might be something that appeals to you.  Whatever works for you!

So there you have it! Whether Game of Thrones is your thing or not, there’s nothing like a bit of fiction to inspire your vows.
Are you planning on including some Game of Throne inspired vows in your ceremony? I would ABSOLUTELY love to hear from you and know how it all turns out. You can drop me a line below. I am so EXCITED at the thought!

Also why not check out my post HOW TO HAVE A GAME OF THRONES STYLE WEDDING!


18 Comments on Game of Thrones inspired vows

  1. I have shared this with my fiance’ and he has agreed to have this ( or something close to this) in our ceremony. Will let you know how it goes. Love the symbolism in the binding in hands and saying vows that have true meaning. YES..i am a GOT head. Love this SHOW!

  2. Hey Michelle, that has made my day! How exciting! I would love to know how it goes. When are you getting married? The hand-binding is beautiful and very heartfelt and I love the idea of saying the vows together. So powerful. Do keep in touch as it would be fab to feature some real-life GOT inspired vows on the blog. Ps Much of season five is being filmed near to where I live and our local papers are full of stories and photos of the cast out and about. Too much excitement! Hurry up season 5!!!

  3. Oh my goodness, this post has made me so excited. I absolutely love GOT and me and my fiance are totally loving the idea of including these vows or something similar in our ceremony next year. Like your modern version of the vows, we may just borrow these, lol.

    • Thanks Jason. Hope you do manage to include it in your wedding. It would be awesome! I like to think we all have a little bit of Rob Starrk in us somewhere!!

  4. I love your take on the vows! My fiance and I are hoping to include the ‘cloaking of the bride’ in our wedding. I plan to make a cloak in the colours of his coat of arms, perhaps with the crest on the back or maybe just elements of it…

    • Hey Mel, thank you so much! What you have planned sounds amazing! And a DIY cloak too, wow! I’d love to know how it goes. All the best, Natasha x

  5. Hi. Thank you for this great post!
    Im getting married in one week with my fiance and we’re looking to have as much as we can in GoT theme. We bought some soundtracks and we want to say the vows as well. Im looking for something else for the person in front to say. A whole speech naming the old and new gods for example, the king or queen we want us to rule and anything we can get in this short time! Im thinking in decorating the dessert with a dragon or putting a sad face on our big n old garden tree as an old god. Can you help us? Its glad to see theres more people who loves the show as much as we do. Thank you!

  6. Well, my hubby and I did do the GOT vows with the hands bound and the cloaking (changing of my house colors). I wore silver and blue, he wore red and gold. Yes, even a full length swordsmans cloak, in his house colors, was used. The ribbon we used for the binding was representative of my house colors. None of our guests knew what we were doing, it was neat to hear the giggles. We said our vows as the GOT mandates. What was even better was that our officiate got into it as well and played her part perfectly. It was beautiful. I would do it again!

  7. I would like to point out that the words they say are naming the Seven Gods of their religion… They weren’t saying unique things to them they were calling for a blessing from their gods.

  8. A wish my dear husband and I had done something similar. Just an FYI for anyone thinking about using these. The vows were correctly stated above BUT the 7 descriptive words at the beginning are actually the 7 gods from game of thrones. They are saying them as if they are vowing to the gods.

    The Father: represents divine justice, and judges the souls of the dead.
    The Mother: represents mercy, peace, fertility, and childbirth. She is sometimes referred to as “the strength of women”.
    The Maiden: represents purity, innocence, love, and beauty.
    The Crone: represents wisdom and foresight. She is represented carrying a lantern.
    The Warrior: represents strength and courage in battle.
    The Smith: represents creation and craftsmanship.
    The Stranger: represents death and the unknown

    • Maybe you can do this if you renew your wedding vows one day! Thanks for the clarification, I’ve added a little amendment in the post to make it clear what they are referencing. Cheers x

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